Thursday, 8 September 2011

Tough Child Rearing Love - Training Your Kids

By Carlos Montebello Xavier


If there was a collection of parenting studies required, then all of us would have at least one four year college degree. No kidding, it seems like there is just a mountain of information on the subject. But you need to start somewhere to get you through the years of being a parent. People may not always read about parenting until they are already too busy with their children. People will decide to learn about parenting in different ways by either reading about it before they have children or after they've already had them. Taking an interest early is showing that you want to invest in your children.

Children can be just like little weasels, at times, and lovable ones though. I'm making this comparison because once you've asked them or told them to do something, they will wiggle and struggle and basically do anything just to avoid doing what you want. But those are the precise times when you need to stand your ground, firmly. You're the only one who understands why you want what you want, while your kid is only looking at the bit that will hurt him or her. All it takes is one moment of weakness and every decision you make in the future will be questioned. So you simply cannot afford to give in and reverse or modify your decision. But, we would also suggest you let your child know their repeated attempts will not be successful.

Depending on their situation, this can make things hard for some parents. We have our faults and shortcomings, yet we want the best for our kids. You don't want the kids to take part or have certain behaviors you dislike, no matter what misgivings we have. You could let your children understand all this by talking to the them and explaining this, if you think it's a good idea. Parenting is pressure enough, but also know that you are preparing your children for their future as adults. This starts with you. You have to start somewhere, so try giving your child simple instructions for things to do around the house. Along with showing them these new responsibilities, you also need to be clear about why you are asking them to do this. Feel free to mix things up and have your children rotate doing the chores. But this gets them in the habit of experiencing requests for help around the house. It's always good to teach your children things that will help them learn many good habits for the future.

Since children are reasonable, they will be helpful and understanding if you tell them what's going on and allow their natural empathy to work. When you think about all the possible scenarios in which this approach can be applied, then you may see the value in it.

Aside from not being loved by their parents, the hardest thing that a child has to deal with is not being accepted for what they really want and feel. As adults, we know what it means to be accepted by those around us. Plus, there are those among us who have had a hard time accepting some of the things about our children. But at the end of the day, those are our children. Hopefully, all parents will be able to let their children know that they love no matter what and they will always be welcomed at home. The outside world may handle them in a different manner, but home is not like this as all. It might be a struggle to teach these new behaviors to your child, but the end result is well worth it. It all depends on them because some will be more open to it than others.

It is no hidden secret that pleased kids makes a pleased family. And one confirmed technique of keeping the children happy is to take plenty of photos of them and place them up throughout the house. This really is easier than you think if you possess the correct personal computer printer. If you don't, don't get worried, they are relatively inexpensively. Seek advice from your neighborhood personal computer store right now.




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